If you think having “the Talk” with your children is weird (try the card game Blush to help with the conversation!), how would you feel about having that same conversation with your newly divorced or widowed parent?
This article from Arti Patel on Boom 99.7’s website has a bunch of statistics, including that both chlamydia, gonorrhea, and syphilis cases have all increased between the years 1980 and 2015 (the most recent national data). And while seniors aren’t experiencing all that many STIs, the fact that there are still reports of any cases is worrying.
“Joan Price, sex advocate and author of The Ultimate Guide to Sex After 50: How to Maintain – or Regain! – a Spicy, Satisfying Sex Life, says the reason why the community has high STI rates is simple: they’re not using condoms.”
So I did some calculations. If a person is 60 today, they were born in 1957. Add 14 (the approximate age for sex education), and you get 1971. What was sexual education in Canada like in 1971?
This was actually an interesting topic to research. I found a pretty great resource here (page 387), but here’s the most important part:
“During the 1960s and 1970s, most students in Canadian schools received little, if any, sexual health education. During this period, information about sexuality was often provided in programs called “Family Life Education” (FLE), which focused on human reproduction, puberty, and, in some cases, birth control.”
Pearson, p 387
Note that there is no mention of STIs. Why not?
Because the AIDS and HIV scares didn’t happen until the 1980s!
So the senior population would not have learned about using protection against diseases. No matter the sexual orientation, a senior couple wouldn’t consider using a condom, because there wouldn’t be a chance of getting pregnant!
In conclusion, have a talk with your parents, and make sure they are aware of the consequences of not using a condom!
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Who should buy condoms? When should they be bought?
You should buy condoms when you and your partner are ready to have sex.
But…should the boy or the girl buy the condoms?
Did I mumble?
How many times have I heard this question? Too many to count, in all its various forms. “The guy should buy the condom, because he doesn’t want to get the girl pregnant.” or “The girl should buy the condom, because she doesn’t want to get pregnant.”
This is frustrating for many reasons. One, this presumes that the hypothetical couple is heterosexual. Better to not assume. Two, it focuses only on the prevention of pregnancy. Sure, condoms are great for that. But they are used for so much more! Three, gender stereotyping is bothersome in all its forms!
And why is it so bad for both partners to buy condoms? Having too many is not a problem!
Condoms should be used as protection when you and your partner are unsure of your sexual pasts. Until you both get tested, even if it’s your first time, you cannot be certain that you are clean from Sexually Transmitted Infections (STIs). Protect both of you by using condoms.
Condoms are great for protecting against pregnancy if used properly, although pregnancy isn’t an issue for everyone.
If you are part of a couple and are planning on having sex, (where you and your partner have given enthusiastic consent) why not go shopping for condoms together? It can ramp up the anticipation, you get the right size, and the brand you both prefer.
If you plan on getting together with a one-night stand, (I’m not judging, have consensual fun as adults!) you should have a condom with you, whether you are a male or female. You can’t assume that your partner will have thought of it, or have the right size, or know that you have a latex allergy. (If you’re a homosexual female, condoms can still come in handy. Read here about how to transform one into a dental dam!)
longer shelf life than latex condoms, no scent, not as sensitive to temperature
transfer heat between skin and condom better
thinner, and less elastic, so you should use water or silicone based lube to avoid breakage
Trojan Supra is one such condom
synthetic latex material that does not produce the allergen
stretchier and more resistant to breakage
pair well with water and silicone based lubricants, but DO NOT use oil based
Lifestyles SKYN is one such condom
FC2 female condom
strong, thin, flexible nitrile sheath
fits inside the woman before sex
note: I have not read anything about anal use for these condoms. Not recommended.
will fit any size of penis
FC2 is one such female condom
Natural skin condoms
also known as sheep skin condoms
these condoms are NOT good enough to prevent STIs, as they are very porous, but will prevent pregnancy
transfers heat well, and can barely feel it
note: an odour is noticeable from these condoms, as they are made from an animal byproduct
Trojan NaturaLamb is one such condom
Use only one condom at a time. Two condoms, even one male and one female, will cause friction and break. Not can, will.
Also, when you are done with your condom, please throw it out in the garbage!
Story time! When my husband and I first moved into our house a year and a half ago, we noticed that the master bathroom sink was leaking. We finally found the source of the leak: the stopper had scraped its way through the metal of the pipe at the back! We bought a new pipe and stopper and replaced it (with my dad’s help). When we took out the old pipe, we found a very old, blackened condom that hadn’t been able to get past the stopper and was blocking the pipe! Gross!
Moral of the story is: throw your condoms in the garbage, NOT down the sink or in the toilet! If you’re trying to hide its use from your parents/kids/friends, you should buy Blush: A Card Game when it comes out, to open communication lines and remove the taboo surrounding sex! But seriously, if you’re trying to hide the evidence, wrap it in a tissue and stuff it in the bottom of the garbage can.
While you’re checking out condoms, check out the cool new Star Wars condoms! Are you a Sith or a Jedi? Either way, protect yourself!