The Insignificance of Life

Hello Friends, Family, and Fans;

As I lay down to sleep last night, fighting a migraine and hearing Pegasus coughing, I was hit with the absurdity of life. On a microscopic scale we are nothing but a sapient world filled with billions of life forms, every cell in our body living and dying in an instant. On a macroscopic scale we’re specs of dust in an uncaring universe, our planet was formed and will be destroyed in a blink of a cosmic eye.

What brought on this existential drama? Chocolate Raspberry coffee.

I was waxing nostalgic about the chocolate raspberry coffee I used to drink in university. You know, back in the old days when Trump was a comedic reality star, TikTok was the sound clocks made, and social media was LiveJournal, MySpace, and MSN Messenger.

Back then, I was working three jobs, going to university full time, volunteering, and horribly burnt out. (Closeted and undiagnosed) However, it felt like the world made sense, like it had rules. Those rules were often unfair, but they were there.

I know now that I was naive. The world doesn’t follow any real rules, and this past decade has proven that over and over again. Humans are so desperate for order that we are easily deceived by grifters and a good story.

But nihilistically, it doesn’t matter. We’re all going to die and be forgotten. In a thousand years, everything and everyone we care about will be forgotten dust, and in five billion years our planet and race will be completely forgotten. Nothing really matters in the long run. Not tariffs, not disease, not the book I’m struggling to write, NOTHING.

So if nothing matters, than what’s the point? If it doesn’t matter, what is our pain and struggle for?

There are two ways to deal with understanding our impermanence: you can choose selfishness or kindness.

Like any binary, there’s an infinite amount of varieties in these two, but if you look at what’s going on around the word, at the hate, the fear, the war, and the suffering; it’s not hard to see that a lot of people have chosen selfishness.

If nothing matters, if we only have this short amount of time together, what’s the point of amassing wealth? Of creating a legacy of money, business, or power? It’s all dust in the end. Just ask Ozymandias.

I met a traveller from an antique land
Who said: Two vast and trunkless legs of stone
Stand in the desart.[d] Near them, on the sand,
Half sunk, a shattered visage lies, whose frown,
And wrinkled lip, and sneer of cold command,
Tell that its sculptor well those passions read
Which yet survive, stamped on these lifeless things,
The hand that mocked them and the heart that fed:
And on the pedestal these words appear:
“My name is Ozymandias, King of Kings:
Look on my works, ye Mighty, and despair!”
No thing beside remains. Round the decay
Of that colossal wreck, boundless and bare
The lone and level sands stretch far away.

— Percy Shelley, “Ozymandias”, 1819 edition

Kindness is the better option. It’s always the better option. Be kind to yourself, be kind to others, and be kind to the world.

Since we’re just tiny blips in the history of humanity, and completely irrelevant to the history of the universe, why not make the time we have be pleasant. If there is a God, he’ll agree, if there isn’t, you’ve made your life and those around you a little better, and that might not mean anything in the long term, but in the short term it’s the only thing that matters.

Choose Kindness,

Éric

It’s okay to take care of yourself

Hello Friends, Family, and Fans;

The world is all kinds of scary and exhausting lately. For those of us that feel everything strongly it’s sometimes hard to function. So I have some advice for you:

It’s okay to rest and take care of yourself.

Seriously, sometimes you have to take a little moment to yourself for joy. If you worry and stress all the time you’ll feel like crap. I know it feels counter intuitive but you’ve got to do it and shut the little voice off. I know it’s easier said than done but try.

My current way of relaxing, other than reading and writing, is watching fun YouTube science stuff. Like this:

It’s hard not to smile and join in the sense of wonder.

Take care of yourself.

Stay safe and be kind (that includes being kind to yourself),

Éric

Outrage and Child-Like Wonder

Hello Friends, Family, and Fans;

There’s a lot going on in the world and I’m tired. Actually, I’m mostly angry and sad. The world seems filled with hate and destruction right now. It’s important that we remember to take some time to recharge between rounds of doom scrolling the news.

The main way I like to relax is by reading, writing, watching tv, or watching movies. One of my all time favourites is Lilo & Stitch. I reviewed it a few years ago and gave it a perfect 5 stars. It’s not perfect but it is as close as possible for me (may need to compensate for nostalgia).

I was a bit skeptical when they announced a live action version. I was mostly worried they wouldn’t cast Polynesian people in the roles or that Stitch would some sort of horrifying CGI abomination.

I was sold after the first few adorable teasers that were reminiscent of the ad campaign for the original. Then they dropped the first trailer and I thought it was really impressive. It was immediately criticized for everything from being too “woke” to not putting Pleakley in drag.

Personally, I think it looks completely adorable and true to the spirit of the original.

We should always consume media critically, but maybe it’s important to wait and see the full thing before jumping to outrage. It’s exhausting to constantly be analyzing why people are angry and I’m all for progressive values, but we need to analyse the full media before getting angry. That is, unless it’s really obviously hateful or damaging.

Take a breath, relax, and allow yourself to enjoy things. Being critical of media doesn’t mean you always have to be angry or outraged. You can admit the flaws and still enjoy things that have small issues.

Please take care of yourselves. We have a marathon of crap coming up and we need to pace ourselves.

Stay safe and be kind,

Éric

Dear Dragon – Kindness

Dear Dragon,

It’s been one heck of a school year. Lots of sickness, lots of uncertainty, and lots of worry. There have been some awkward talks with your classmates about Santa and crushes.

One thing that has been constant however is your kindness.

This week you found out that your friend had worn her one blue shirt and needed a blue shirt for the Winter Carnival at school. You immediately decided to bring her a shirt. There have been other times this year, you wanted to bring things for your classmates and I think that’s really sweet of you.

You also want to make something called, “Kids Club” that would see you and your friends doing things you’re good at and selling the product to raise money for charity. (I think this is inspired by the books and movies of the Baby-Sitters Club.)

You think the best of others and have a really hard time understanding why people do mean or unkind things. You also have a strong sense of right and wrong. Both are admirable but it sometimes leads you to be indignant or wanting to strike back.

I hope that as you grow up, you learn to temper that … erm well… temper and try to see why people are the way they are.

The world, and humanity, sometimes seems like a cruel place, but watching you wanting to do nice things for your neighbours makes me feel hopeful.

I love you little Dragon!

Your Papa

Éric’s Conspiracy Theory Theory

Hello Imaginary Friends,

The world is a scary place right now. Other than the virus that has killed over 350,000 people worldwide and left countless others with life-long side effects; there are other things going on.

Some countries have taken this worldwide emergency as a great time to trample over civil-rights. I’m talking about China, the Saudi state, and Russia. The lockdown is hurting people. Joblessness is hurting people.

And the world will be different when this whole thing is over. Whether it’s for better or worse is yet to be seen.

It’s completely understandable that people are scared. It’s that fear that has driven people to believe in the most ridiculous things.

Image of Benjamin Franklin and the quote, “Three can keep a secret, if two of them are dead. “

I’ve stated before that human intellect is based on pattern recognition and that leads to a biasing effect. We want to see the patterns and we want to see that the world is organized and controlled, therefore controllable.

It’s hard for those most fearful to accept that the universe is random and sometimes bad things happen for no reason. It’s easier to believe that Bill Gates wants to GPS tag everyone so he created the virus than believe that poor conditions in animal markets might be to blame.

In these trying times, it’s important that we keep vigilant and listen to the experts. Read and watch with critical thought. Here’s some more advice from me four years ago.

Be Kind, Be Aware, and WASH YOUR HANDS!

Éric

Dear Dragon – The World Today

Hello Dragon,

I hope you’re afraid of monsters under your bed, boogeymen, or (like your grandmother) of Freddy Kruger. It’s not that I want you to be afraid but that I want you to only have fictional things to scare you.

I hope you never feel the fear of going out to a public place, or going to school.

I hope you never fear for your life walking down the street or traveling to other countries.

The world right now is on the cusp of something. I’m not sure what it is yet. Optimistically it’s the movement towards a united and peaceful world. Pessimistically it’s the movement towards another great terrible war or series of wars.

Weekly in the news, we hear about bombings. Sometimes more than one a week. In the UK they just voted to leave the European Union. Some for economic reasons but mostly for racist reasons; and hate crimes have risen to historic highs. In the US, the argument of politics seems to be more about skin colour and genitals than actual policies.

All over the world people are afraid. Afraid for their lives, afraid of others, afraid for our world.

The earth isn’t dying. People will tell you we’re destroying it. They’re wrong, we’re making it uninhabitable for ourselves. Just another thing to fear. Some people deal with that fear by trying to change things, others by ignoring it.

“I would never bring a child into this world, why would you?”

Someone asked me how I could think of bringing children into such a broken world. My answer to them was simply, “Hope.”

You, Baby Dragon, represent hope to me; a hope that you will have a wonderful life that you will see a world free from hate and fear, that you’ll help make that world.

And the truth is it’s not all doom and gloom. The Ozone Layer has started to heal, infant mortality is at its lowest in history, life spans are longer, more people can read, food production is more efficient than ever. Every day we as a species invent, discover, and create something amazing.

 

The world we’re bringing you into isn’t perfect, far from it, but it has hope and that’s worth a lot.

I love you, Baby Dragon!

Your Loving Papa