Blush: Asexual Spectrum

I was amiss in not writing a Blush post in June about Pride. I apologize. I wasn’t thinking.

To make up for it, I would like to talk about one of the least talked about and most erased letters of the LGBTQIA+ family: the A.

(Also, this article by Talia C. Johnson was written yesterday on this subject. You need to go read it, because she was so much more eloquent than I.)

This video was released on June 5, 2017. I almost turned it off when I saw what they chose to use for the A – Ally. Seriously? As someone who used to call themselves an ally (it’s a four-letter word…this post by Talia C. Johnson is a good one to read about that), I was extremely offended that that was included in the LGBTQIAlphabet instead of Asexual. But I decided to continue watching. Perhaps they would include Asexual in some other letter? But D was used for Drag, G used for Gay, and as I kept watching, none of the letters included anything on the Asexual Spectrum.

I was annoyed.

But then I realized that I also don’t talk much about Asexuality on this blog, and other than this guest post by S. M. Carriere, I have been remiss.

I will attempt to rectify this now.


The best resource I have found for Asexuality questions is The Asexual Visbility and Education Network. I am really impressed by their FAQ section.

The Asexuality Spectrum is fluid, and if you identify as Ace (Asexual) you might find yourself identifying as Asexual, Gray-Asexual, or Demisexual. Aromantic can also fall under the spectrum.


Asexual: Someone who does not experience sexual attraction.

Demisexual: Someone who can only experience sexual attraction after an emotional bond has been formed. This bond does not have to be romantic in nature.

Gray-asexual (gray-a) or gray-sexual: Someone who identifies with the area between asexuality and sexuality, for example because they experience sexual attraction very rarely, only under specific circumstances, or of an intensity so low that it’s ignorable.


If you have further questions about asexuality, I highly recommend reading about it.

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2 thoughts on “Blush: Asexual Spectrum”

  1. Good post overall, has 1 issue: aromanticism does not fall under the asexual spectrum. We have our own spectrum and our own issues that don’t fit with asexuals. The A stands for asexual, aromantic, and agender, not just the asexual spectrum.


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